When was your “sexual debut”?
The term “virginity” has come under fire from some woke folks, who suggested calling the act of having intercourse for the first time a “debut.”
As the BBC reports, feminist scholars have long called for a term to replace “virginity,” which traditionally places female sexuality on a pedestal as a souvenir that can be “taken” or “lost.”
But some believe the language around the act should evolve to better include people of myriad identities by rebranding and replacing words like “virginity” — evocative of innocent young maidens in the throes of adolescence and burgeoning womanhood — especially as society’s understanding of what exactly constitutes “sex” has broadened to previously unspeakable acts.
“We still have this old, rickety word that encapsulates what’s supposed to be an expansive time,” said cultural critic Nicolle Hodges. The Toronto-based author of sex-positive Dr. Seussian parody book “Oh, the Places You’ll Go Oh Oh!” told BBC it’s “such a limiting idea.”
“It’s not just replacing ‘virginity’ with a new term – it’s saying virginity is a concept that doesn’t exist, because your sexual journey never ends,” she added.
In the spirit of sexual autonomy, Hodges needed a term to use in her book that embraced the various moments in our lives where sexuality blooms. A “sexual debut,” she suggests, would be more fitting. The term had been used in the past, mostly seen in academic publications as a softer euphemism for “virginity loss.”
“Sexual debut” caught on with Hodges’ fans, leading her to launch a campaign to include the term in the discourse — even producing cheeky sweatshirts with the rebrand.
“Time to rebrand virginity to sexual debut so girls don’t begin their journey at a deficit, feeling like they have lost or given something up,” she wrote last year on Twitter. “We have few modern rites of passage, and the fact that this transition/discovery is shrouded in shame has to change. It is a celebration!”
Source: Hannah Sparks – New York Post